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  1. 18 MAY • THE PREMIUM PLUS ONLY

    S1EP9 | The Story of William James & The Responsibility/Fault Fallacy | The Subtle Art Of Not Giving a F*ck

    Welcome back to The Messy Podcast, Season 1: The Art for Beginners, S1EP9 | The Story of William James & The Responsibility/Fault Fallacy | The Subtle Art Of Not Giving a F*ck! In this podcast, we delve into the powerful and counterintuitive ideas found in the excerpts from "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F_ck." We explore the concept that we are always choosing, even when it comes to the problems we face. Ready to take greater responsibility in your life? Explore resources for navigating life's challenges: https://themessypodcast.com/therapy Important Disclaimer: This podcast series explores philosophical concepts and principles of personal growth, drawing insights that align with ideas discussed in "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck." This episode aims to provide educational and analytical content. Any references to external ideas are for commentary and educational purposes. All rights to any referenced works belong to their respective owners, and no copyright infringement is intended. To further explore the principles discussed, you can purchase "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck" here: https://a.co/d/fWyb5AC The sources suggest that the difference between a problem being painful or being powerful often stems from a sense that we chose it and are responsible for it. When we feel like our problems are forced upon us, we tend to feel victimized. However, when we feel we are choosing our problems, we feel empowered. One key insight is that we are always responsible for our experiences, regardless of the external circumstances, controlling our interpretation and response. We'll explore the crucial distinction between responsibility and fault, where fault is past tense, and responsibility is about the choices you are making every second. Understanding this is vital because with great responsibility comes great power. Accepting responsibility for our problems is the first step to solving them. We also examine how our chosen values and the metrics we use to measure our lives shape the problems we encounter, looking at the example of William James, who chose radical responsibility despite immense difficulties, leading to profound personal growth. Join us to explore how embracing responsibility, understanding our choices, and examining our values can transform our experience of problems and unlock greater power and possibility in our lives. You can find more information about The Messy Podcast at this direct link: https://themessypodcast.com/

    13 min
  2. 18 MAY • THE PREMIUM PLUS ONLY

    S1EP8 | Rock Star Problems, Shitty Values & Defining Good Values | The Subtle Art Of Not Giving a F*ck

    Welcome back to The Messy Podcast, Season 1: The Art for Beginners, S1EP8 Rock Star Problems, Shitty Values & Defining Good Values! Are you tired of conventional self-help advice that tells you to stay positive and chase happiness? This podcast explores a counterintuitive approach to living a good life by examining what you truly "give a fuck" about. Drawing on insightful stories, like that of rock legends Dave Mustaine and Pete Best, we delve into how your values determine the metrics by which you measure yourself and everyone else. Ready to redefine your values for a better life? Explore resources for navigating life's challenges: https://themessypodcast.com/therapy Important Disclaimer: This podcast series explores philosophical concepts and principles of personal growth, drawing insights that align with ideas discussed in "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck." This episode aims to provide educational and analytical content. Any references to external ideas are for commentary and educational purposes. All rights to any referenced works belong to their respective owners, and no copyright infringement is intended. To further explore the principles discussed, you can purchase "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck" here: https://a.co/d/fWyb5AC In this episode, we challenge the idea that common pursuits like pleasure and material success always lead to fulfillment. Research suggests that focusing on superficial pleasures can actually make you more anxious. Similarly, material success beyond basic needs has little correlation with happiness. Trying to always be right prevents learning, while denying negative emotions perpetuates problems. These are often "shitty values" that create problems which are hard to solve. Instead, we explore the power of adopting good values, which are reality-based, socially constructive, and immediate and controllable, such as honesty, vulnerability, self-respect, and curiosity. These are values achieved internally and stand in contrast to bad values that rely on external events outside of your control. You can find more information about The Messy Podcast at this direct link: https://themessypodcast.com/ Join us as we explore the uncomfortable but life-changing journey of choosing what truly matters.

    19 min
  3. 18 MAY • THE PREMIUM PLUS ONLY

    S1EP7 | The Story of Hiroo Onoda & The Self-Awareness Onion | The Subtle Art Of Not Giving a F*ck

    Welcome back to The Messy Podcast, Season 1: The Art for Beginners, S1EP7 The Story of Hiroo Onoda & The Self-Awareness Onion! In this podcast, we delve into the challenging but essential aspects of living a meaningful life. We'll explore fascinating stories, like that of Second Lieutenant Hiroo Onoda, a Japanese Imperial Army soldier who was deployed to the island of Lubang in the Philippines in late 1944 with orders to never surrender. Ready to explore deeper self-awareness? Discover resources for navigating life's challenges: https://themessypodcast.com/therapy Important Disclaimer: This podcast series explores philosophical concepts and principles of personal growth, drawing insights that align with ideas discussed in "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck." This episode aims to provide educational and analytical content. Any references to external ideas are for commentary and educational purposes. All rights to any referenced works belong to their respective owners, and no copyright infringement is intended. To further explore the principles discussed, you can purchase "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck" here: https://a.co/d/fWyb5AC These stories highlight that suffering is inevitable. Onoda spent decades in the jungle, and Suzuki pursued dangerous adventures. Yet, they found meaning in their suffering. This leads us to the crucial question: If suffering is unavoidable, the real question isn't "How do I stop suffering?" but "Why am I suffering—for what purpose?" Understanding this purpose requires deep self-awareness, which we can think of as an onion with layers. The first layer is understanding our emotions. The second is asking why we feel them. The deepest layer involves understanding our personal values, which determine our problems and the quality of our lives. Much self-help focuses on feeling good in the short term, ignoring the underlying values. Through honest self-questioning, we can reveal our values and how we measure them. Problems are inevitable, but the meaning we assign to them is within our control. Join us as we peel back the layers of the self-awareness onion, confront difficult truths, and explore how understanding our values can help us find purpose and meaning even in the midst of suffering. You can find more information about The Messy Podcast at this direct link: https://themessypodcast.com/

    15 min
  4. 18 MAY • THE PREMIUM PLUS ONLY

    S1EP6 | Author's Trauma, Resulting Entitlement & The Tyranny of Exceptionalism | The Subtle Art Of Not Giving a F*ck

    Welcome back to The Messy Podcast, Season 1: The Art for Beginners, S1EP6 Author's Trauma, Resulting Entitlement & The Tyranny of Exceptionalism! Are you tired of feeling inadequate in a world that constantly tells you you need to be extraordinary? This podcast explores a counterintuitive idea: perhaps the key to living a good life lies not in striving for exceptionalism, but in accepting the ordinary. Ready to explore a different perspective on self-worth? Discover resources for navigating life's challenges: https://themessypodcast.com/therapy Important Disclaimer: This podcast series explores philosophical concepts and principles of personal growth, drawing insights that align with ideas discussed in "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck." This episode aims to provide educational and analytical content. Any references to external ideas are for commentary and educational purposes. All rights to any referenced works belong to their respective owners, and no copyright infringement is intended. To further explore the principles discussed, you can purchase "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck" here: https://a.co/d/fWyb5AC Drawing on insights from the provided text, we delve into the concept of entitlement, which the author links to feeling that you have problems you're incapable of solving. This feeling can make you believe you are uniquely special or uniquely defective, leading to the idea that the rules are different for you. We'll examine the author's own journey through a difficult adolescence marked by trauma, which led him down a path of entitlement, driven by a craving for validation. The podcast will also explore the cultural forces at play, particularly how technology and mass media contribute to a pervasive sense of entitlement and insecurity by exposing us to unrealistic standards and conditioning us to see exceptionalism as the norm. We discuss the danger of believing a life is only worthwhile if it's notable and great. But there's an alternative perspective presented: that true exceptionalism comes not from believing you're special, but from an obsession with improvement born from understanding you are not already great. Ultimately, the podcast suggests that emotional health comes from accepting the "bland and mundane truths of life" and appreciating life's basic, ordinary experiences. Tune in to explore how embracing your average reality might just be the most exceptional thing you can do. You can find more information about The Messy Podcast at this direct link: https://themessypodcast.com/

    14 min
  5. 18 MAY • THE PREMIUM PLUS ONLY

    S1EP5 | Entitlement & The Self-Esteem Trap | The Subtle Art Of Not Giving a F*ck

    Welcome back to The Messy Podcast, Season 1: The Art for Beginners, S1EP5 Entitlement & The Self-Esteem Trap! Are you constantly told to "think positive" and believe you are special? This podcast delves into why merely feeling good about yourself might not be the answer and explores a counterintuitive approach to living a good life. Ready to explore a more realistic approach to self-worth? Discover resources for navigating life's challenges: https://themessypodcast.com/therapy Important Disclaimer: This podcast series explores philosophical concepts and principles of personal growth, drawing insights that align with ideas discussed in "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck." This episode aims to provide educational and analytical content. Any references to external ideas are for commentary and educational purposes. All rights to any referenced works belong to their respective owners, and no copyright infringement is intended. To further explore the principles discussed, you can purchase "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck" here: https://a.co/d/fWyb5AC We challenge the modern push for "high self-esteem" that gained traction in psychology in the 1960s, questioning if teaching people they are exceptional regardless of achievement leads to genuine success or instead creates a population of "Jimmys". We'll unpack the concept of entitlement, characterized by a delusional degree of self-confidence and the belief that you deserve good things without actually earning them. Meet characters like "Jimmy," who exemplifies being "all talk and no walk", living off others while maintaining a bulletproof delusion of success, convinced of his own genius. Discover why this kind of entitlement is a "failed strategy" that traps individuals in a "narcissistic bubble," distorting reality and preventing them from improving their lives in any lasting way. Learn about the alternative perspective presented in the sources: that the true measurement of self-worth is not how you feel about your positive experiences, but rather how you feel about your negative experiences. It's about the capacity to look frankly at the negative parts of your character and act to improve upon them, acknowledging flaws instead of hiding from problems with imagined successes. Join us as we explore uncomfortable truths and challenging experiences, highlighting why adversity and failure are actually useful and even necessary for developing strong, successful adults. You can find more information about The Messy Podcast at this direct link: https://themessypodcast.com/ Tune in to rethink self-worth, entitlement, and what it truly takes to live a good life.

    13 min
  6. 18 MAY

    S1EP4 | Denial, Victim Mentality, Emotions & Choosing Struggle | The Subtle Art Of Not Giving a F*ck

    Welcome back to The Messy Podcast, Season 1: The Art for Beginners, S1EP4! Are you tired of constantly seeking happiness and trying to avoid discomfort? What if the path to a better life isn't about avoiding problems, but about choosing which ones you're willing to struggle with? This podcast explores a counterintuitive approach to living well, suggesting that life is fundamentally about solving problems. Ready to embrace the challenges for a more fulfilling life? Explore resources for navigating life's difficulties: https://themessypodcast.com/therapy Important Disclaimer: This podcast series explores philosophical concepts and principles of personal growth, drawing insights that align with ideas discussed in "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck." This episode aims to provide educational and analytical content. Any references to external ideas are for commentary and educational purposes. All rights to any referenced works belong to their respective owners, and no copyright infringement is intended. To further explore the principles discussed, you can purchase "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck" here: https://a.co/d/fWyb5AC We'll look at how our emotions serve as feedback mechanisms, acting as signposts rather than commandments. Understanding that negative emotions signal problems requiring action and that over-reliance on feelings without reason can lead to poor decisions is crucial. Forget the relentless, never-ending pursuit of happiness that the "hedonic treadmill" describes. Instead, we focus on the more significant question: "What pain do you want to sustain?". True, serious fulfillment isn't found in avoiding struggle, but in earning it through choosing and managing our difficulties. You'll learn why simply wanting the result or the victory isn't enough; you must learn to love the process and the struggle involved. Join us to discover how your identity is defined by what you are willing to struggle for, and why the joy of life is found in the process and the climb itself, not just the imagined summit or the effortless victory. You can find more information about The Messy Podcast at this direct link: https://themessypodcast.com/ Embracing the challenges is the path to a truly meaningful existence!

    12 min
  7. 18 MAY

    S1EP3 | The Backwards Law & The Subtle Art | The Subtle Art Of Not Giving a F*ck

    Welcome back to The Messy Podcast, Season 1: The Art for Beginners, S1 EP3 The Backwards Law & The Subtle Art! Tired of the endless pursuit of a perfect, problem-free life in search of happiness? What if everything you've been taught about happiness is counterintuitive? Welcome to The Messy Podcast, where we dive into the raw, uncomfortable, and ultimately liberating truths about living a good life, inspired by the insights in Mark Manson's "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck." Ready to embrace the uncomfortable for a more fulfilling life? Explore resources for navigating life's challenges: https://themessypodcast.com/therapy Important Disclaimer: This podcast series explores philosophical concepts and principles of personal growth, drawing insights that align with ideas discussed in "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck." This episode aims to provide educational and analytical content. Any references to external ideas are for commentary and educational purposes. All rights to any referenced works belong to their respective owners, and no copyright infringement is intended. To further explore the principles discussed, you can purchase "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck" here: https://a.co/d/fWyb5AC Forget the idea that happiness is a destination you reach by achieving certain goals or eliminating all your problems. As the sources explain, problems are not a bug in the system of life; they are a feature. Problems never truly end; they simply evolve or get exchanged. Even someone with immense wealth like Warren Buffett still has money problems, just different ones than someone less fortunate. This podcast explores the powerful concept that pain and dissatisfaction are not things to be feared or avoided, but are actually necessary components of a meaningful life. Our capacity for suffering, both physical and psychological, is a vital feedback mechanism that teaches us, helps us understand our limits, and inspires change. Trying to shield ourselves from all discomfort can disconnect us from the reality of the world. Instead of chasing a mythical state of constant happiness, we'll learn why happiness is an active process—an ongoing activity, not a passive state. It doesn't appear magically when you get the perfect job or relationship. True fulfillment isn't found in not having problems, but in finding the problems you genuinely enjoy having and enjoy solving. Join us as we embrace the uncomfortable, confront difficult truths (like a philosophical Disappointment Panda knocking on your door), and explore how accepting the inevitability of pain and loss and focusing on the process of solving problems can lead to a more consistent, authentic, and ultimately, happier existence. You can find more information about The Messy Podcast at this direct link: https://themessypodcast.com/ Let's get messy and strategically strive for a more authentic existence!

    13 min
  8. 18 MAY

    S1EP2 | The Feedback Loop, The Backwards Law & The Subtle Art | The Subtle Art Of Not Giving a F*ck

    Welcome back to The Messy Podcast, Season 1: The Art for Beginners, Episode 2: The Feedback Loop, The Backwards Law & The Subtle Art! Are you tired of giving a fuck about everything? This podcast dives into the subtle art of not giving a fuck, inspired by the provocative ideas presented in the sources. It's crucial to understand that this isn't about being indifferent. The sources explain that indifference is often a state of being scared and lame, where people avoid meaningful choices because they give way too many fucks about what others think. Ready to learn how to choose what truly matters? Explore resources for navigating life's challenges and focusing your energy effectively: https://themessypodcast.com/therapy Important Disclaimer: This podcast series explores philosophical concepts and principles of personal growth, drawing insights that align with ideas discussed in "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck." This episode aims to provide educational and analytical content. Any references to external ideas are for commentary and educational purposes. All rights to any referenced works belong to their respective owners, and no copyright infringement is intended. To further explore the principles discussed, you can purchase "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck" here: https://a.co/d/fWyb5AC In this episode, we explore the powerful concepts of the feedback loop and the backwards law, revealing how our reactions to life's challenges often perpetuate them. We'll discuss how the desire for positive experiences can paradoxically create negative experiences, and how embracing discomfort can lead to greater happiness. Just like learning to prioritize our thoughts, we must also become selective about what kind of suffering we are willing to bear. True fulfillment isn't found in avoiding problems, but in choosing problems that align with our values and that we genuinely enjoy solving. We'll delve into the subtle art of focusing our "f***s" on what truly matters. You can find more information about The Messy Podcast at this direct link: https://themessypodcast.com/ Let's get messy and strategically strive for a more authentic existence!

    13 min
  9. SEASON 1, EPISODE 2 TRAILER

    The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck | Audiobook | The Messy Podcast

    Welcome back to The Messy Podcast, Season 1: The Art for beginners, Episode 1: Introduction & The Story of Charles Bukowski! Ready to move beyond "good enough"? This episode dives into the raw, uncomfortable, and ultimately liberating truths about living a good life, inspired by the insights in Mark Manson's "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck." Ready to embrace the messy truths of life? Explore resources for navigating challenges and finding fulfillment in the process: https://themessypodcast.com/therapy Important Disclaimer: This podcast series analyzes philosophical concepts and explores principles of personal growth, drawing insights that align with ideas discussed in "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck." This episode aims to provide educational and analytical content. Any references to external ideas are for commentary and educational purposes. All rights to any referenced works belong to their respective owners, and no copyright infringement is intended. To further explore the principles discussed, you can purchase "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck" here: https://a.co/d/fWyb5AC In this episode, we challenge the conventional pursuit of a problem-free existence as the key to happiness. We explore the powerful concept that pain and dissatisfaction are not things to be feared or avoided, but are actually necessary components of a meaningful life. Our capacity for suffering, both physical and psychological, is a vital feedback mechanism that teaches us, helps us understand our limits, and inspires change. Trying to shield ourselves from all discomfort can disconnect us from the reality of the world. Instead of chasing a mythical state of constant happiness, we'll learn why happiness is an active process—an ongoing activity, not a passive state. It doesn't appear magically when you get the perfect job or relationship. True fulfillment isn't found in not having problems, but in finding the problems you genuinely enjoy having and enjoy solving. We'll also explore the life and work of Charles Bukowski, whose raw and unflinching portrayal of life's difficulties embodies many of the principles we discuss. You can find more information about The Messy Podcast at this direct link: https://themessypodcast.com/ Let's get messy and strategically strive for a more authentic existence!

    13 min

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