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Join relationship coach Stephanie Rigg in On Attachment, where she delves deep into all things attachment theory, love, relationships & intimacy - sharing her wisdom and experience to help you start making real changes in your life & relationships. 

  1. 4 DAYS AGO

    #187: Is It Better to Heal While Single or in a Relationship?

    Whether you’re single or partnered, you might find yourself wondering: Am I in the right place to do this work? There’s often an unspoken belief that there’s a “best” time to heal — and that if we’re not doing it in the ideal conditions, we’re doing it wrong. In this episode, I’ll explore: The advantages and limitations of healing while singleWhy being in a relationship can accelerate your growth (but only under the right conditions)How emotional safety plays a key role in healingWhy the question itself might be coming from a place of fear, shame, or comparisonHow to work with whatever season you're in and meet yourself thereWhether you're currently dating, in a relationship, or consciously taking space from romantic connection — this conversation will help you better understand the unique opportunities (and challenges) each path offers. Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here September 2025 London Event Waitlist Additional Resources Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website

    25 min

  2. 30 APR

    #186: When Life Hasn't Gone to Plan

    We all have visions for how we thought life would unfold — timelines we hoped to follow, milestones we expected to reach. So what happens when life doesn't go to plan? In today’s episode, I’m speaking to those moments of disappointment, grief, and disorientation that come when our reality looks nothing like we’d imagined. Whether it’s relationships, career, family, or a more intangible sense of where you “should” be by now — it’s easy to spiral into self-blame, shame, or despair when life veers off course. We’ll explore: Why unmet timelines can stir such deep emotion and shameThe hidden comparison traps that make us feel like we’re falling behindHow to hold space for grief without collapsing into hopelessnessThe difference between giving up and gently letting goWhat it looks like to reimagine your path from a place of self-trust and compassionIf you’re navigating a chapter that looks wildly different from what you’d hoped or planned — I hope this conversation helps you feel a little less alone. Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here September 2025 London Event Waitlist Additional Resources Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website

    22 min

  3. 26 APR

    #185: How Caretaking Impacts Our Relationships

    REGISTER FOR MY NEW FREE TRAINING Many of us are taught that taking care of the people we love is the ultimate expression of devotion. But when caring crosses the line into caretaking, it can quietly create deep imbalances in our relationships. Caretaking often stems from anxiety, a need for control, or an old belief that love must be earned through over-functioning — anticipating needs, smoothing over discomfort, managing someone else's feelings or life for them. While it can look like love on the surface, it often leaves both partners stuck: one overextending, the other under-functioning, and both feeling disconnected. In this episode, we explore: The key differences between caring and caretakingHow caretaking can create resentment, imbalance, and emotional dependencyWhy caretaking is often a hidden form of controlSigns you might be caught in a caretaking dynamicHow to shift towards healthier, more empowering ways of loving and relatingBuilding secure, connected relationships isn't about fixing or rescuing each other — it's about standing alongside each other, with enough trust to let each person take responsibility for themselves. Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here September 2025 London Event Waitlist Additional Resources Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website

    22 min

  4. 16 APR

    #184: Understanding the Power Struggle Stage of Relationships

    Most relationships move through a phase where things start to feel harder than they used to. The spark has dimmed, tension is bubbling beneath the surface, and it feels like you’re constantly clashing or misfiring. This is what’s often called the power struggle stage — and while it can be incredibly challenging, it’s also a powerful opportunity for growth and deeper intimacy. In today’s episode, we’re talking about: What the power struggle stage is and why it happensHow insecure attachment patterns can intensify this dynamicThe common traps couples fall into during this phaseWhat to do (and not do) if you want to move through itWhen the power struggle becomes a sign of misalignment rather than a phaseIf you’ve found yourself wondering whether you’re growing apart or just navigating something difficult and necessary — this episode is for you. Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here September 2025 London Event Waitlist Additional Resources Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website

    27 min

  5. 8 APR

    #183: How to Be a Better Partner

    When we think about improving our relationships, we’re often focused on what isn’t working — what our partner could do differently, how we’re not getting our needs met, where communication is breaking down. But in this episode, I want to invite a slightly different lens: what does it mean to be a better partner? Not from a place of self-sacrifice or perfectionism, but from a grounded, secure place. One that’s rooted in love, compassion, curiosity, and a willingness to show up with care. In this episode, we explore: Why our capacity to sit with discomfort can shape the tone of our relationshipsWhat it really means to listen with curiosity, rather than defensivenessHow our own insecurities can make us self-focused without realising itThe importance of meaningful repair after conflictThe difference between blame and honest self-reflectionWhy it matters to love your partner the way they receive love—not just how you like to give itThese aren’t tips to make yourself more palatable or easygoing. They’re invitations to grow, to connect more deeply, and to take ownership of your part in creating a secure and nourishing relational space. Free Masterclass: Anxious-Avoidant Relationships Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here September 2025 London Event Waitlist Additional Resources Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website

    22 min

  6. 2 APR

    #182: What to Do When Your Partner Doesn't Want to Work on Themselves (or the Relationship)

    One of the hardest things to face in a relationship is feeling like you're growing and evolving, while your partner seems simply unwilling to meet you there. Maybe you’ve suggested therapy, brought up recurring issues, or shared books and podcasts you love, only to be met with silence, shutdown, or defensiveness. In this episode, we’re exploring what to do when your partner doesn’t seem interested in personal growth or improving the relationship. We’ll talk about why this happens, what it means (and doesn’t mean), and how to navigate it in a way that honours your own needs without defaulting to blame or control. Whether you're in a long-term partnership or navigating something newer, this conversation will help you feel more grounded and clear in how you show up when things feel one-sided. In this episode, I cover: Why some people resist self-work or relationship growthHow attachment styles shape our responses to discomfort and changeThe difference between inviting vs. demanding growthWhy your healing doesn’t depend on your partner's participationWhat to do when you’ve tried everything and still feel stuckHighlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here September 2025 London Event Waitlist Additional Resources Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website

    23 min

  7. 25 MAR

    #181: The Demonisation of Avoidant Attachment (& Why It Has to Stop)

    In today’s episode, I’m diving into a topic that’s both close to my heart and foundational to how I approach this work: the widespread demonisation of avoidant attachment — and why we need to stop doing it. It’s all too common, especially in online spaces, for people (often those with anxious attachment) to project blame, anger, and sweeping judgments onto those with avoidant attachment styles. But while that instinct may feel validating in the short term, it actually keeps us stuck. This episode is a call for compassion and nuance — not just for others, but for ourselves. Whether you’ve been hurt by someone with avoidant tendencies in the past or are currently struggling with anxious-avoidant dynamics, this conversation will invite you to take a broader, more honest look at the patterns playing out in your relationships and what healing really requires. In this episode, I cover: Why avoidant attachment is so often misunderstood and unfairly vilifiedHow our instinct to blame keeps us stuck in insecure patternsThe deeper origins of avoidant attachment — and how understanding this helps build compassionWhy anger, blame, and black-and-white thinking won’t help you healThe role of boundaries, discernment, and self-responsibility in moving forwardIf you're committed to growing into a more secure, grounded version of yourself, this episode is an invitation to pause and reflect on the narratives you’re holding — about others, and about yourself. Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here September 2025 London Event Waitlist Additional Resources Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website

    27 min

  8. 18 MAR

    #180: 5 Hard Truths About Healing Anxious Attachment

    Healing anxious attachment is a life-changing journey — but it’s not always easy. While moving toward secure attachment can bring more ease, confidence, and healthier relationships, it also requires confronting some uncomfortable truths along the way. In this episode, we’re unpacking five hard truths about healing that will help you set realistic expectations and stay committed to your growth. What We Cover in This Episode: Why healing isn’t always comfortable — and why grief is often part of the processThe myth of waking up one day as "fully secure" and what real progress looks likeHow healing might disrupt your relationships (and why not everyone will like the changes you make)Why you won’t stop getting triggered — but how you can gain more control over your reactionsThe surprising truth: sometimes you’ll miss your old patterns, even the unhealthy onesHealing doesn’t mean never struggling again. It means showing up differently, practicing new choices, and being compassionate with yourself along the way. If you're in the thick of it, know that you're not alone, and every step forward matters. Highlighted Links FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here September 2025 London Event Waitlist Additional Resources Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website

    23 min
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Join relationship coach Stephanie Rigg in On Attachment, where she delves deep into all things attachment theory, love, relationships & intimacy - sharing her wisdom and experience to help you start making real changes in your life & relationships. 

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  • Creator
    Stephanie Rigg
  • Years Active
    2022 - 2025
  • Episodes
    187
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    © 2025 On Attachment
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